I still consider myself to be a new mom. I don’t share the belief that once your child hits a year old, you’re home free. NOT! I believe the complete opposite, raising children is a lifetime task that you learn from every day, though things do get a bit easier at times. So with that said, and with all these challenges that parents may have ahead of them, I ask: What about Mommy?
You know, that person that spends more time cleaning up cookie messes, dealing with tantrums and can’t even get 10 minutes in the bathroom..alone.
In my experience, at the very beginning of your child’s life people will come to you offering you help and filling your head with these dreams of them whisking your child away just for one day so you can have some “time for yourself” and some people fulfill these dreams and you’re grateful, I was. But…oh yes, the infamous “but”…those offers to help and give you an hour (or a day) of peace come but they become less genuine. There’s always these lines, ” Oh, I want to come pick up (child’s name) on Thursday and take him/her out so you can rest.” Thursday comes and no call. Or they say, “When he/she can walk/talk, then I will pick them up”, like really? Really? What is that?
Personally, I seize any opportunity I can get when my son is being picked up and whisked away. I get to breathe. I love him but being a mom is hard and a non-stop job. We need breaks. We do need time off. We do need a mani/pedi/facial day. We do need and crave peace & quiet sometimes. Sometimes, we even need people to say, “I know (child’s name) is doing great, but how are YOU?” with all the sincerity in the world.
Sincerity, niceness and concern go a long way with mommies. Do you know how much it would mean to a mother if you asked her about herself or offered to give her a mini-break just for her benefit? Its not selfish for moms to crave alone time, its natural. So to all moms out there that need a little pick me up…I understand and I encourage you to stay strong because no one else can do what we do. To all godparents, aunties, uncles, grandparents and every one in between, take the time to ask any mom you know: How are YOU?
Peace & Pieces<3