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Tinka Talk: The Decision to Stay at Home


Photo Credit: Two Scoops of Bitchy

Once I found out was pregnant, I was petrified nervous but I got over it and accepted the reality of the situation. Being pregnant at 21? Certainly not my top goal. But it happened and now we’re here, a year and some change later and I’m singing Bubble Guppies in the shower & pinning dozens of toddler fashion photos after putting Hands to bed.

I never ever wanted to be a stay-at-home mom. Ever. After going back & forth with my husband about who would stay with Hands, eventually it ended up being me. We never really made a concrete decision at first since we were both scouring the job market but he ended up getting a new-and better-job opportunity before I did. So I committed to being a SAHM, it made sense and it works out well since I’m finishing up my online graduate courses. Plus, I’m a better multi-tasker than my husband any day of the week.

Honestly, being a SAHM has its ups and downs. I get tired and there are no breaks. It can be a bit lonely and frustrating too. But I love being able to get closer to my son each day and learn all his little quirks. But I’m learning that it’s really not so bad after all.

Tinka’s Tips:

1. Don’t let anyone make the decision for you. You have a choice in the matter.

2. You can always change your mind. If you do, have a plan for child care.

3. Have these conversations with your partner. Tell him/her how you feel. If it’s too much, say so.