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CHANGE: Time to Move On

Hey guys!

It’s been a while since I’ve posted and I have to admit something: I did not miss the blog.

I started this blog almost a year ago and I thought that this was exactly what I wanted to do. I felt I had the time and the mindset, I was right but I was also wrong.

I don’t love blogging like I thought. I thought because I love to write, this was a perfect match but no. I’ve lost total interest and I realize that my heart isn’t in it. If I’ve learned anything in the last two years, it was to not do anything your heart isn’t in.

I’ve been going back & forth with myself with this issue for about 3 months now. It’s a new year and I don’t want to spend any time doing anything that I don’t love. I need to improve myself and focus.

I should’ve started blogging five years ago or maybe I should start blogging again five years from now..but right now is not the time. I love to write, I love words and painting a beautiful picture with them. However, I’ve realized that with this blog, I’ve been writing what I think people want to read instead of what I want to write.

Some of its been good, some uninteresting and a couple of posts were great. But it’s time to move on. I’m not giving up or being down on myself, I’m simply moving forward to figure out what I truly love, harness my talents, continue to build a beautiful life and moving forward from there.

Thank you all for being a part of my blogging experience & thank you for reading! I’ll always appreciate the love and devotion.

Don’t be ashamed of your sins because they provide life lessons!

Good Luck & Goodbye…for now. Who knows, Maybe I’ll be back to blogging someday.

Stay focused, stay fly & build a beautiful life.

 

Signed,

SINNER IN THE CITY<3

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Interracial Relationships: What Really Happens

I’ve never been shy about crushing on men outside of my race. I love how different everyone is when it comes to skin color, culture, tradition, language. Life is interesting & beautiful this way. Being in an interracial relationship has been difficult, fun and quite interesting; but I wouldn’t have it any other way, I love my husband no matter what. But even though the world has changed over time, people still shun interracial love and refuse to budge. On the flip side of that, I think people should be with whomever they please..its your life.

The Families

The way family reacts can be good or very bad. I’ve experienced both. My family didn’t really care that my husband is Hispanic, on the other hand, my father-in-law hasn’t been the most welcoming. Not quite what I was looking forward to but this is a part of my life now and it being in an interracial relationship could potentially mean that you could face the same issue or worse.

Bottom Line: There’s no real way to prepare yourself for this.; but in a rocky, race-related family situation, two things are very important: Boundaries & Communication.

The General Public

On a positive note, much of the world has become much more comfortable with seeing interracial couples. However, there are many people that will stare, jeer and even shun you & your boo.There’s really no progress in responding to negativity with more negativity.

Bottom Line:Next time you see someone staring, just simply smile or say, “Hello”. Imagine their confusion & shame, much better than picking a fight.

The Relationship

In some relationships, you never skip a beat and things feel natural. But because of some of the difficulties that interracial couples may face, some may find themselves doubting their feelings for the one they love.

Bottom Line: Don’t let anyone try to persuade you out of a healthy, loving relationship just because it makes you uncomfortable. 

“Love is louder than the whispers of others.”

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Share your thoughts, experiences & tips below in the comments!

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